Hi, again "Y" Manda and I responded to this where you mentioned it in your intro post but here it is again (copy /paste) :
I'm with Manda (and it is soooo nice to see our Manda posting again )! What works best for you and is comfortable is surely YOUR "right" way to do it. I hold my hook and yarn differently than most people but my results are as they should be and it reduces the pain and stiffness in my arthritis and tendonitis and carpel tunnel ridden hands more than holding the hook in a conventional fashion. So! Have faith, be confident and decide if your work is satisfactory no matter how you hold hook and yarn. If your tension is satisfactory and you can perform the stitches---no one but yourself should ever judge anyway!